Quite a while back I wrote about setting goals and how people are afraid to do so because they might not be able to achieve their goals. So they imagine setting a goal and then doing everything they possibly can and then not achieving it. What will people think? Perhaps you should not be sharing your goals to start with. Watch this if you want to get the inside scoop.
You might also recall that I spoke about the principle of ensue not that long ago. From this perspective you should stop chasing things like happiness because in the pursuit of happiness you actually never attain it. You might therefore ask what is more important than happiness? According to Victor Frankl the determination of meaning for yourself is much more important. Not the meaning of life in general but the meaning of your life. A very subjective approach.
What I take from this is that having an idea or vision of where you want to go is much more than setting out specifics of how this should happen - just move! Some people need goal setting to help them along and track their progress. Others, like myself, are more intuitive and work to serve a greater purpose. Another approach that some follow is to engage in what they are good at with their whole being and as time goes by they realise they are engaged in very meaningful work.
There are many options that suit many different people. The danger is that if one person finds a way that has worked for them and such a person is a leader he/she can enforce that solution on everyone. What I however find is that a lot of people are in fact reluctant followers. Let's back off and let everyone set their own pace and become truly great (whatever that might mean)!
3 comments:
Very true. The meaning of your life plays a very big role in how you experience it and what you make of it. What do you value most and does what you do with your life support those values? This is the most important. It is also true that without a plan it is many times difficult to start (it is also true that it does not always work out according to plan either). Maybe that is only true for personalities like mine and that people like you just like to do things intuitively. Either way, we need to make sure we take actions that support our values, the things we care about most in life, that give our lives meaning.
"The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well" - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Agree. Why chase another man's goal?
He probably is much better in that thing that you will ever be. Which mean that you will always end up second best.
In my case I find that I need to make room for my goal, or that which I think adds meaning to my life. I find that I too am reluctant to start something new. I guess in my case I need to set goals getting the obstacles out of the way and the rest follows intuitively.
I like the quote of Margaret Lee Runbeck - "Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling"
The word "manner" stands out for me.
May my manner be such that u can distinguish its enhancing effect on the person next to me! (Inspired by JD's coffee been example.)
Thank you Chris and Erhaldo - I value your input. The way you incorporate the discussion into your lives is inspiring.
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